The Un-Social Child
Greetings to everyone!!
Many of you are aware that over the last 90 days I have been working on the subject of ” Children who are not to open to outsiders”. The prime intent was again that I understand that many of you wanted to know what could be the possible remedy for the same, and I replied to you that I ll come back with with Crisp Pointers of my understanding with possible measures for the same, and here we go:
These patterns can be caused by, and complicated by a wide range of factors which can include: lack of communication and challenge-solving skills, family patterns, perceptual challenges, genetics; anxiety, low self-esteem, physical and emotional discomfort caused by unhealed accidents, traumas and abuses of all kinds; and many more similar reasons. I have specially observed the same in my son, that he kind of stays in a shell when he is uncomfortable and in spite of pushing him hard to go out and mingle ( weather he likes or not, I have seen his sense of uncomfortableness), though at times I understand that it’s needed, however never ever push too hard ever is what I recommend.
I did receive multiple query from my readers in the similar lines, and hence thought that it’s time to address the same, and state that, in most of the cases it is nothing to worry much and with time most of them will open up ( the pace however differs).
My notes for the Parents who asked me the same would be that, firstly you don’t be judgmental and ensure that you keep the communication open with them at all times. More often than not, teenagers that prefer the comfort of home to spending time with their peers are completely normal. If they truly seem happy at home and don’t appear motivated to be out socialising, there’s not much to worry, infact I myself was similar in my childhood. If however, they seem to be lacking in social skills and seem unable to converse with others, there could possibly more going on here. There is also the possibility of being bullied by their friends in school or neighbourhood. If they seem unable to read others emotionally and behave inappropriately in social settings, seeing a counselor might be beneficial, however I suggest that it could be your last resort. There may be nothing wrong and it could all be down to a developmental phase but I am just covering all the ‘bases’! It’s important to know the difference between an unsociable teenagers that is struggling with social skills and one that just isn’t all that interested in socialising, and believe me it’s to do a lot with how were you or your spouse when you were at that age?
Many of you are aware that over the last 90 days I have been working on the subject of ” Children who are not to open to outsiders”. The prime intent was again that I understand that many of you wanted to know what could be the possible remedy for the same, and I replied to you that I ll come back with with Crisp Pointers of my understanding with possible measures for the same, and here we go:
These patterns can be caused by, and complicated by a wide range of factors which can include: lack of communication and challenge-solving skills, family patterns, perceptual challenges, genetics; anxiety, low self-esteem, physical and emotional discomfort caused by unhealed accidents, traumas and abuses of all kinds; and many more similar reasons. I have specially observed the same in my son, that he kind of stays in a shell when he is uncomfortable and in spite of pushing him hard to go out and mingle ( weather he likes or not, I have seen his sense of uncomfortableness), though at times I understand that it’s needed, however never ever push too hard ever is what I recommend.
I did receive multiple query from my readers in the similar lines, and hence thought that it’s time to address the same, and state that, in most of the cases it is nothing to worry much and with time most of them will open up ( the pace however differs).
My notes for the Parents who asked me the same would be that, firstly you don’t be judgmental and ensure that you keep the communication open with them at all times. More often than not, teenagers that prefer the comfort of home to spending time with their peers are completely normal. If they truly seem happy at home and don’t appear motivated to be out socialising, there’s not much to worry, infact I myself was similar in my childhood. If however, they seem to be lacking in social skills and seem unable to converse with others, there could possibly more going on here. There is also the possibility of being bullied by their friends in school or neighbourhood. If they seem unable to read others emotionally and behave inappropriately in social settings, seeing a counselor might be beneficial, however I suggest that it could be your last resort. There may be nothing wrong and it could all be down to a developmental phase but I am just covering all the ‘bases’! It’s important to know the difference between an unsociable teenagers that is struggling with social skills and one that just isn’t all that interested in socialising, and believe me it’s to do a lot with how were you or your spouse when you were at that age?
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